Vibrators can be scary. We get it. For years, they were something banished to a drawer in your nightstand, never to be talked about. But why shouldn’t we talk about it? The reality is that masturbation is good for you and there’s nothing to be ashamed of.
Regular masturbation and orgasms are great for keeping your pelvic floor healthy, which means less incontinence. Having trouble sleeping? A little bit of you time might be just the trick. After you orgasm, the flood of endorphins rushing through your body actually helps you get better sleep. The same natural rush of endorphins also works as a stress reliever, which means you can get a two-for-one special.
Perhaps most importantly for us, engaging in sexual activity (including masturbation) as you age is associated with better cognition. That’s right. A 2017 study from The Journals of Gerentology found that people engaged in more sexual activity had higher scores on cognitive tests.
And there are more vibrators than ever made by women, for women. That’s even reflected in the design of them, which now come in appealing pastels and look a lot less intimidating than they used to. One of our favorite brands is smilemakers, who’s mission is “to normalize the perception of female sexuality.” Their vibrators have cute names like The Fireman and The Tennis Coach, and each have a specific purpose. They’re made with body-safe silicon, and if you don’t know which one is right for you there’s a quiz!
It doesn’t have to be a solo party either. Dame is a women’s wellness start-up focused on toys that help in the bedroom. The discreet pieces even come in chic color palettes. Their Eva II vibrator is small and comes with wings, which means it’s handsfree. Plus, it’s made of medical grade silicone and comes in pale pink.
Then there’s the Crave, our absolute favorite. It looks like a necklace that the secretaries wore on Mad Men, but it’s secretly your new best friend. The vibrating pendant has four speeds, is completely waterproof, and finished in 24-karat gold. Because you’re worth it.
We pulled some of our favorite vibrators geared towards women so all you have to do is click.
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